Sometimes in the day to day stuff you can really tell the difference between us. I don't know if it is like this for everyone but it is in our house. Sometimes I feel like I walk a fine line between helping Chris find his way as a father and staying out of it because he is Anna's parent too. Sometimes I make the wrong choice and we all suffer for it. Oh nothing terrible has happened it is just that sometimes Chris can take something the wrong way or seem a little more harsh than I think necessary or even more than he thinks he is. A lot of it is probably personality as well as us making our way through the choppy waters of being parents.
Parenting is hard stuff! If only they made a handbook for it lol. I guess if you go to the bookstore there are a couple of dozen or more about it. The thing is that all children are different and all parents are different. Therefore, a handbook would only do so much. The only way to do it is to muddle your way through as best as you can. Sure there are some books that give great advice. The only one that I have read that is worth anything is The Happiest Baby on the Block. It had great tips for the first little while with your infant. I couldn't use them all on Anna but he did have some great suggestions. I have flipped through a few others and not been impressed at all. Then it dawned on me that Anna is Anna. She isn't just like anyone else out there. She is unique and special. She is a terror at times and a joy at others. She is the light of my life and of her Dads. We will continue to muddle our way through. We will continue to learn and grow and love as a family. With all of our clashes and struggles and insecurities. We will also have love and laughter and the peace of knowing that even when we screw up we still have each other.
As a friend of mine said earlier today: Parenting is the hardest job you will ever love! Go hug your little terror and let them know they are loved!